Dating advice for 13
Here’s the paradox: Making money requires personality traits that are desired by lots of women: Discipline. She quickly sees a guy who’s overcompensating by “showing off.” She sees a guy who doesn’t value himself.
And besides, who would want to be “loved” for a bank account. Any quality woman who hears this immediately runs for the hills.
But before anyone can get married they have to go through the process of getting to know a person and pursuing love for them (at least if you practice the Western tradition of pursuing marriage).
It’s also hard, excruciating, joyful, hurtful, and incredibly fulfilling — at least this is what married people tell me, and from watching them, I believe it.
After all, they've been there, they (somewhat) know what you're going through, and they just want whatever is best and will make you happy. In this article I am going to call it “dating” and define it as “the process of finding a spouse.” I do not claim to be an expert: I realize that many varying opinions about dating float around Christian circles jumping over each other, getting mixed together, and consuming some people. You wish it could happen soon but it completely freaks you out. Some people call this dating, other people call it courting — there are likely countless terms you could use for the process. So instead of telling her how you’re worth a million bucks, lead her through an experience where she feels like a million bucks. A man who’s mastered the ability to provide and create. Make no mistake: leading with your padded “resume” is almost just as bad as telling a woman you live with your mom on a first date.
She can’t get aroused or fall in real love with his money. I’m sure the women reading this would agree that those character traits are highly attractive in a boyfriend, partner, or husband.